Fatherhood is very important in the rearing the kids and supporting the family. It is interesting to see how children learn and grow both with fathers, father figures and no fathers at all. You can’t get the same influence from a father figure than with an actual father, but he can be better than no father figure. Fathers are there with their children when they’re not working to help influence their children to control their emotions and turning their weaknesses into strengths. They also teach their children to respect women, taking on responsibilities, and standing up for what is right. Something that a good father can teach his daughters is what kind of man she should date and eventually marry. Daughters can be raised knowing what kind of man they want to marry just based on attributes they like from their father.
However, this can be hard when the father is not home all the time. One of the biggest roles of a father is to provide for his family, and unless he works from home, he cannot do that without going out and working. This culture has been presented from the beginning with Adam and Eve coming out of the garden. But this does not give the father an excuse to make the mother raise the children by herself, it is very hard to prepare children to be successful with just one parent influencing them. But isn’t this what society could be thinking when it pictures families? It thinks that a husband and wife are two separate beings living together, but God intended a marriage between a husband and wife, to be made as one and unified. Sometimes fathers can get caught up in work and not in his duties to his family. But it could be to make more money to provide for his family. It’s important to keep the three P’s balanced, they are all equally important and if you leave one out it will show. Fathers should make sure to focus on building their work life around their family and not build their family around their work life.
Another interesting thing to think about is income in the family. What do you do if both partners are working, then get married and eventually have kids? If both parents decide to work with a family, it could cost them more than if one parent decided to stay home. Sometimes the expenses go up and there won’t be as much income as we may think. The cost of daycare, convenience food, and insurance goes up because of both the parents working. The roles of the parents that are set up in the church that generally men go out and work or provide for their families, preside over, and protect their families; whereas the women nurture and support their husbands and together they will teach their children good how to be independent hard workers, and there will be balance in the home.
On the other side of the spectrum there are men that don’t work at all. It is interesting when we look at the story of Adam and Eve and how they reacted to the different events in their lives. Adam and Eve first lived in the garden of Eden, where everything was provided for them, food shelter and comfort; in a state where they couldn’t have kids. But due to events, they were cast out of the garden and had to work for their support. Both Adam and Eve did their part providing and sustaining their family. They each had specific roles to create that successful livelihood, and in a way set the example for us to follow.
Unfortunately, men and women don’t stick to these roles, some men and women don’t work and sometimes even wish to be in the garden of Eden simply because it is easier and carefree. The sad part is that they will not grow good habits and mindsets for hardships in the future and will cause laziness. There’s no comfort in the growth zone and there is absolutely no growth in the comfort zone. We must constantly be working to do our part to raise and provide for our families and be smart with our time, then you will be successful.
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