What are the purposes of parenting? Parenting can help the parents just as much as it can help the children. Parents provide and protect them and help to prepare them for the life they are going to be living in.
Some advantages of the parents being there raising the kids over someone else coming in and helping, are them being able to see the growth of their kids and sharing that experience with them. They will build that connection more when the parents are doing things with their children. What is it that children need to be taught? For starters, Christlike attributes are always great as well as respect of authority, self-reliance, gratitude, confidence, integrity, learning how to be close to God and gain truths, the ability to communicate effectively with others, how to problem solve, being optimistic, cooperation, accurate self-esteem (not an inflated self-esteem).
Is the Compliance way the right way? By rewarding them when they do what is right and punish the daylight out of them when they do something wrong? It is always important to discipline with love and not out of anger. Children need contact and a sense of belonging. Touch and attention can mean a lot to a child, with a lower learning level and a lack of many skills that they start developing from their parents. Therefore, they started doing away with orphanages, and why there is a great effort in giving each child a family and a home. It’s very sad that some parents don’t care about their children’s needs. Cuddling, hugging, sports, etc. provides that touch to build those relationships and connecting with each other and when that’s not there, that can be hard on the child. Meeting together for church is a great way to bond with each other and unite the church members. So, it is good to offer contact to children freely.
Unfortunately, when kids don’t get their needs met, they may seek for something not as valuable. You can never get enough of what you don’t need, because what you don’t need cannot satisfy you. Kids try to be obnoxious, and they can’t stop so they keep being obnoxious to get attention. Then when they come to be teenagers, they may seek out sexual pleasures and touch to fulfill their contact needs with hormones in the mix. Once you give them that touch and attention, just a little more can make a difference with children seeking attention, so they won’t seek it out through inappropriate means. People most often turn to pornography when they are alone because they feel like that would satisfy those emotions, but it will never satisfy them. Be an active parent, touch is everything. A hug a day can make a huge difference.
It’s interesting to see how people change overtime with technology growing so much. It seems that a good portion of people fear contact, especially social, even though they crave it but maybe they don’t know how to communicate with others. Warmth and kindness open it up and people are drawn to that social aspect they just don’t know how to start that. The mask could be giving a shield that people can hide behind to avoid contact, with covid around.
Just a small note on chores and responsibilities, when parents let the children contribute to the family and chores, they will be better off, if you were to pay the children for the chores, they would think it’s a financial agreement. Responsibility is the ability to respond to the things that life provides and allow them to experience the natural consequences those actions cause. Let them make choices that are appropriate, sometimes the parents interfere with the consequences of their children. That could give a false consequence for the child.
Some people fight others to gain protection, but what they don’t understand is they fear them, they don’t respect them. It is good to be assertive, but it is very hard to teach. It’s the same thing with teaching humility, you can’t force them to be humble. Sometimes a child needs to experience these things for themselves through trial and error and if they have been taught by their parents, they will also learn how to respect their parent’s teaching more. We thrive on learning and growing, it feels good when we learn something new, and it gives us a sense of confidence. Thus, the more you learn and give opportunities for your children to learn, the happier they will be and the more confidence they will have on taking on some of life’s biggest challenges.
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